If I mention my wife's feet during sex one more time my marriage is over
DEAR DEIDRE: MY wife has told me our marriage will be over if I mention her feet again during sex.
She has always allowed me to indulge in stroking her feet and kissing them to get me aroused but now she has gone right off it.
We are both 36 and we have been together for three years.
I am the only person she has ever had an intimate relationship with.
When she went out with some girlfriends one night they talked about their “normal” sex lives and my wife realised that what I enjoy in the bedroom is unusual.
Now she won’t allow me to go near her feet.
Poldark viewers disgusted by horrific Reverend Osborne Whitworth toe sucking sceneShe says she just wants me to have sex with her in the normal way, touching her body. I feel I need to indulge in it though. It’s what I’ve always done.
I love her so much and we have a baby girl together, but I don’t think I can go on having sex without my fetish.
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DEIDRE SAYS: Fetishes can be very strong and hard to shift but your wife worries that her feet are your turn-on and that’s all you love about her. It feels rejecting.
Rather than focusing solely on what you want, ask her what makes her feel good.
Indulge her for a change and maybe she will agree to you taking it in turns to be the “spoiled” one.
My e-leaflet Fetish Worries can help you find a compromise.
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